I honestly wonder how many Hollywood and pornographic films certain Muslims watch. Because they don't seem to trust their own daughters, sisters, mothers, nieces, or female cousins to be independent, out of the fear they might become the actresses in Hollywood or pornographic films ("whores of the west" (they're words)).
We NEED to see women as equal, we CANNOT put any restrictions on them. Pakistani women should be allowed to make their OWN decisions, and live their OWN lives according to their wishes. More importantly, we CANNOT see them as being weak in their deen. We CANNOT make them feel as if they're being criminals in the eyes of Allah. Several patriarchal muslim countries have the view women will become prostitutes, sluts, or have boyfriends if they aren't burka covered housewives, or if they don't have close male relatives with them when they go out. Because like I have said many times (in the "my muslim thoughts" blog), culture influences peoples views on Islam. So contradicting culture or the ulema from that culture does NOT MEAN they're misguided.
We need to stop judging, stop being suspicious, and stop being paranoid of Pakistani women if we see them with a man who isn't related to her (or maybe he is). We also cannot spy on them to see if they do things that confirm our suspicions or paranoia. Many men and women have co-workers, colleagues, teachers/professors, patients, and doctors whom are of the opposite sex. It only becomes haraam when dating, flirting, or engaging in fornication arises.
I should add, flirting means engaging in types of talk that will lead to dating or fornication. Just because a laugh is shared, or acts of kindness, that doesn't count as flirting. I say this because Pakistani communities are engaging in massive paranoia about what flirting actually is.
We need to STOP targeting Pakistani women. Pakistani communities should STOP seeing women as baby making machines who should be hidden from public. Pakistani communities should STOP expecting that from women. Most Pakistani women don't cover their hair. Which unfortunately makes them prone to abuse and attacks.
"I think she has boyfriends", "I don't think she does her namaaz (prayers)", "I don't think she fasts during Ramadan", "She's trying so hard to be westernized". These rumors start spreading like wild fire in Pakistani communities.
How come we don't see Hindus, Christians, Jews, Buddhists, or atheists target and harass women like how many Pakistani Muslims do???? How come females from other religions are getting bullied like how many Pakistani women have to go through??? How come men from Christianity, Judaism, Buddhism, and Atheism aren't going after their women like rabid dogs, which is so prevalent in Pakistani communities??
AND even if Pakistani women are engaging in haraam activities, like fornication (I mean if they openly say it, or you actually witnessed it (seeing the penis in the vagina- I have to be specific because like I said before, anything is fornication/adultery nowadays)), drinking alcohol, having boyfriends (I mean actually dating, and NOT what I mentioned in the third paragraph), and wearing revealing clothes (I don't mean showing her hair, I mean actually revealing and tight clothing that will get her kicked out of school), then it is between her and ALLAH, not between her and the vulgar language you are about the spew. By the way, all that activity is FAR MORE COMMON among Pakistani males, but NO ONE is going to target them!